Aside from the kitchen chairs, the only thing to sit on in our apartment is a loveseat that I inherited from my maternal grandparents. Both have passed away. I think of my grandmother often as I sit in the rocking seat. She had dementia for a long while, and often thought her only daughter was her older sister. That worked for Mom, considering, being the older sister meant she could tell Grandma what to do and she'd listen (provided she was wearing her hearing aids).
After Grandpa passed away, my brother and his dear wife moved in to take care of her. Mom would bring her to Salt Lake on Sundays to give them a break. When I was at home, I'd play Checkers with her to keep her busy while Mom made dinner. Ever played Checkers with a nearly blind, nearly deaf, dementia woman? It was always amusing. She'd rub her collarbone while she looked at the board. I knew that wasn't Grandma. Mom often said it wasn't her mother, but that we had something to learn by taking care of her. Grandma was very different from the woman we got to care for at the end.
Grandma was very proud of her children. Education was very important to her. That was definitely instilled in her daughter, as my siblings and I KNEW Mom expecting nothing but our best in school. I remember one birthday Grandma was still 'there'. Several of us were in her basement, we had cake, and my uncle asked her if she had any advice for us. The only thing I remember her saying was "Well, you all have more education that I do." I find it fitting that her children are professors, doctors, physicists and artists.
The Gospel was important to Grandma. Living in Bismark, North Dakota, there were few members. For a while, church was held in the home until they had to drive hours on Sunday to get to church. They went despite weather and sleepiness. When the Bismark Temple was announced, Mom went up with her parents to see it. It was an incredible experience for them. A temple where you once had church in your home because the nearest member was too far away. I can't imagine that feeling.
I was with Grandma when she died. It was a very spiritual experience. We could tell when the Spirit was gone. I remember my mother whispering in her ear that it was okay for her to go. That Grandpa was waiting for her. We were happy that she was herself again. No longer limited by the restrictions of her age. I look forward to meeting her again and getting to know her again.